Prabhupāda: All enemies. Mother enemy, father enemy. And then? Ṛṇa-kartā pitā śatrur mātā śatrur dhicārinī, rūpavatī bhāryā śatruḥ. And if the wife is very beautiful, she is also enemy. And putraḥ śatrur apaṇḍitaḥ. And the son, if he's a rascal, he is enemy. That's all. This is family enemies. In the family nobody expects enemy, but Cāṇakya Paṇḍita says that these are enemies in the family: ṛṇa-kartā pitā śatrur mātā śatrur dhicārinī, rūpavatī bhāryā śatruḥ. Now everyone is hankering after very beautiful wife, and Cāṇakya Paṇḍita said, "Then you are bringing one enemy." Just see what is the type of civilization. Because if you become too much attached to wife, then you'll never be able to go out of home and take sannyāsa.
Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Andha-kūpam.
Prabhupāda: Andha-kūpam. You shall have to die. Gṛham andha-kūpam. Hitvātma-pātaṁ gṛham andha-kūpaṁ vanaṁ gato . . . (SB 7.5.5). You'll never be able to leave the home if wife is very attractive. Of course, everyone's wife is very attractive. (laughs)
Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Even if ugly.
Prabhupāda: Yes. That . . . One, our Sanskrit professor used to . . . "My dear boys, even there is beauty amongst the Negroes." He used to say. And it is my . . . It is one's eye that she is very beautiful. It does not recommend others' recommendation. Yar saṅge ye morje man kibari ki vardana. It doesn't matter whether she low caste or high caste; if she is attractive, then it is all right. Therefore rūpavatī bhāryā śatruḥ. Cāṇakya Paṇḍita's instruction are very, very nice. You know my story? My father's instruction? Yes.
Harikeśa: What was that?
Prabhupāda: (chuckles) My wife was never beautiful to my sight, so I wanted to marry again, and my father advised, "Don't do it. She is your friend, that you don't like her." (laughs) Just see.
Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: But still, Prabhupāda, you said that your school work was a little impeded . . .
Prabhupāda: Huh? No, that is natural. In young time, when there is young girl . . . That is also said, yauvane kukkarī sundarī. When woman is in full youth, even she is like dog, she is beautiful. (laughs) Yauvane kukkarī sundarī.
Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Who said that? Whose statement was that?
Prabhupāda: No, that was also . . . I do not know, but this is going on. (laughs) (laughter) Yauvane kukkarī sundarī. It is by nature's arrangement the woman is given one chance at the time of youthfulness. Otherwise how she will be given protection by a man? They require protection. If somebody is not attracted, then how she gets protection? This is natural.
Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Nowadays, though, even if she is attractive, the men simply take advantage.
Prabhupāda: Yes.
Harikeśa: And they call this liberation.
Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: And the women want it.
Prabhupāda: Want means as the social practice is there, everyone becomes victimized.
Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: So it's not their fault.
Prabhupāda: The social system in India, that a boy, say, twenty, twenty-five years, and a girl, twelve to sixteen years, must be married. Must be married. And before marriage the girl should not see any boy, and the boy should not see any woman. Then the life is all right. Even in U.P. still, the system is that before marriage the boy should not see, the marriage takes place. Nowadays it has been practiced that boy goes to see the girl, but formerly it was not. She should not see. She should see the girl when the marriage actually takes place, not before that. The psychology is that when they require a man or a girl, so whatever she is or he is, they accept and they remain chaste, so there is no separation. This is the psychology. Whenever you are hungry, whatever nonsense foodstuff is offered to you, it is palatable. Is it not? Because, after all, it is the appetite which eats, not the foodstuff. Foodstuff may be very, very nicely prepared, but if you have no appetite, it is finished. (chuckles) You know the history of Ramakrishna? Did I say? Yes. So he had no appetite, and he very tactfully said, "Oh, you are not my wife, you are my mother." And he became Bhagavān.