Prabhupāda: Now, when I was gṛhastha, so they offered tea, I said, "I don't take tea." Then they said "Milk?" "Yes, all right. You can give me milk." I'd take little milk. Or you can take little cold drink, soda water. That sugar and water, little lemon. He wants to offer you something. So there are so many other varieties, varieties. But if he insists, "You must take tea," that is not hospitality.
Guest (7): But what happens is somebody else comes in, you know.
Guest (8): Hospitality means prasādam.
Prabhupāda: Hospitality means first of all, he should ask, "What can I offer you?" This is hospitality.
Guest (8): Naturally, you know...
Prabhupāda: No. Hospitality means the man should ask you, "What can I offer you?" That is hospitality. If he says that "I must give you tea, and you must drink it," that is not hospitality. (laughter)
Guest (8): (indistinct)
Prabhupāda: No, no. Hospitality is first... According to our Indian system, (Hindi) Then you can say, "Then you can give me a little sweet water." or "You can give me little milk." That's all. Hospitality does not mean I must force you, "You must take it." That is not hospitality.
Guest (9): (Hindi) Somebody comes to my place...
Prabhupāda: So you should ask, "What can I offer you?"
Guest (9): ...say, "A cup of tea will do." Then?
Prabhupāda: That's all right.
Guest (9): We cannot give him cup of tea.
Prabhupāda: No, you cannot give, that "I have no tea. You take milk." (laughter)
Guest (8): No tea, now. Why do you keep that tea in the house?
Prabhupāda: But if you offer milk or little sherbet, nobody will deny it. Even if he's a tea drinker, he cannot deny taking a little sherbet or little milk or a sandeṣa or some sweetmeat or... What is that? You want to offer him something. So offer him... There are so many things. Why that particular tea should be offered. Is it very nice preparation?
Guest (9): Another tea and coffee. The people generally want...
Prabhupāda: I want things are nice, but...
Guest (9): If we stop that one, I come to coffee and tea.
Prabhupāda: They might have gone to hell, but I am not... (laughter) I cannot offer him hellish things. Bhagavat-prasāda. We are offering our Bhagavat-prasādam. Nobody is denying. You can offer in the same way. We are not offering tea or coffee. Whatever we have got, take it. So this is artificial. We can avoid all these difficulties. There is no difficulty at all.