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<div id="1977_Conversations_and_Morning_Walks" class="sub_section" sec_index="10" parent="Conversations_and_Morning_Walks" text="1977 Conversations and Morning Walks"><h3>1977 Conversations and Morning Walks</h3>
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<div class="heading">Unless he can maintain family, why should he marry?... If he marries, why he should not take responsibility of maintaining? Why he should marry if he has no power of maintaining?
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<span class="link">[[Vanisource:Room Conversation about Grhasthas -- July 17, 1977, Vrndavana|Room Conversation about Grhasthas -- July 17, 1977, Vrndavana]]: </span><div class="text"><p style="display: inline;">Upendra: Prabhupādajī? I have one question since you are speaking about gṛhastha. If a brahmacārī decides to get married and then enters into married life, should he be encouraged to maintain that responsibility throughout his life?</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: No, no, unless he can maintain family, why should he marry?</p>
<p>Upendra: Well, I'm specifically questioning the fact that some... Of course, our movement is young, but so many women, their husbands leave them, and they are so young and they're left. So these young women I'm thinking may become a disturbance in the future to the movement, because how a woman can remain unmarried for so many years? Her husband has left her after a few years of marriage. Generally...</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: What we can do?</p>
<p>Upendra: I'm saying the emphasis of marriage responsibility, I don't know if it's preached that strongly. Generally it's preached that one should not...</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: No, if he marries, why he should not take responsibility of maintaining? Why he should marry if he has no power of maintaining?</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: What does that mean, "power of maintaining," Śrīla Prabhupāda?</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: He must maintain his wife, children nicely. Otherwise why he should marry?</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: He shouldn't expect the temple to maintain him.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: That is not possible.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Of course, he might be thinking, "Well, I'm a pūjārī, so the temple should pay me money to maintain my family."</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: If we have got brahmacārī pūjārī, why should we maintain a gṛhastha? He is not only one pūjārī. We have got sannyāsī, brahmacārī. Why should we maintain a gṛhastha? And where is the means? After all, these things are to be adjusted. I can give you the ideas. The pūjārīs were given in Vṛndāvana the temple, and they made it a source of income. Just like the gosāis are doing. Their pūjā goes to hell.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Who?</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Mean these gṛhastha pūjārī. Gradually the pūjā will go to hell. They'll gradually glide down how to maintain family by showing the Deity. That is... The gosāis are doing. People have sentiment to give something to the Deity, and they will depend on that income. Bas. This is the position of these Vṛndāvana temple. What is the position of the Rādhā-Ramaṇa? Deterioration. It is not being properly done. They'll sell the property.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Yes. Just like that Madan Mohan is thinking...</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Yes.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: ...to do. He says it's his property.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Yes.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: Imagine that. Whew! Boy!</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: He is maintaining it for his sons', daughters' marriage. That is...</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: After all, Tīrtha Mahārāja did that too.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Yes.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: He says, "My son is the next in line." Whew.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: The interest will go to the family, not to the Deity.</p>
<p>Tamāla Kṛṣṇa: That's not good.</p>
<p>Prabhupāda: Jīva Gosvāmī was brahmacārī. So he gave to a gṛhastha śiṣya to maintain Rādhā-Dāmodara. But what is the position now? Gopāla Bhaṭṭa Gosvāmī was also a brahmacārī. Everything depends on training and mentality. If the attention is diverted otherwise, then it is lost.</p>
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