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<div class="heading">So in the material world there cannot be prema. Prema means love. The prema is only possible in the spiritual world. Here, what is going on as love, that is not love, that is lust. A boy loves a girl, a girl loves a boy. That is not love, that is lust. As soon as there is some disturbance in lusty affair, they divorce. So therefore that is not love. So we should note it, that so-called love is bogus in this material world. Love cannot be possible.
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<span class="link">[[Vanisource:Lecture on SB 2.3.1-3 -- Los Angeles, May 22, 1972|Lecture on SB 2.3.1-3 -- Los Angeles, May 22, 1972]]: </span><div class="text"><p style="display: inline;">
Prabhupāda: So these are ''kāma'', these material desires. Somebody is wanting wealth, somebody is wanting beauty, somebody is wanting strength, somebody something else. All these are . . . the beginning from ''brahma-varcasa-kāmas tu''. And ultimately, they want to merge into the ''brahma-jyotir''. So up to that point, everything that we want, that is material, and that is lust. Therefore it is said ''kāma''. The just the opposite word of ''kāma ''is ''prema'', love.

So in the material world there cannot be ''prema. Prema'' means love. The ''prema ''is only possible in the spiritual world. Here, what is going on as love, that is not love, that is lust. A boy loves a girl, a girl loves a boy—that is not love, that is lust. As soon as there is some disturbance in lusty affair, they divorce. So therefore that is not love. So we should note it, that so-called love is bogus in this material world. Love cannot be possible. This very word, love, ''prema'', is specially reserved for ''Kṛṣṇa. Premā pum-artho mahān'' (''Caitanya-manjusa''). That is Caitanya Mahāprabhu's preaching, that the highest perfection of life is to evoke one's dormant love for Kṛṣṇa.

The love is there. It is reserved for Kṛṣṇa. But due to our foolishness, we are distributing that love in so many ways, up to the dog. This is called illusion. We do not know where to apply love. In this way . . . all these words is touched with the word ''kāma''. ''Kāma''. ''Kāma ''means lust. There is no question of love. And love . . . ''prema'' and ''kāma'' is described in ''Caitanya-caritāmṛta'', what is ''prema'' and what is . . . ''prema'' and ''kāma''. ''Ātmendriya-prīti-vāñchā tāra bali kāma'' ([[Vanisource:CC Adi 4.165|CC Adi 4.165]]). ''Kāma''. What is lust? ''Ātmendriya-prīti'', to satisfy one's own senses. That is ''kāma''. Here, a boy and girl love. They say "love," but no, it is not love. The boy wants to satisfy his senses, and the girl wants to satisfy her senses. That's all. Therefore, ''ātmendriya-prīti-vāñchā''. Everyone is trying to satisfy her own senses. That is ''kāma'', lust. And then, what is ''prema? Kṛṣṇendriya-prīti-icchā dhare prema nāma'', that when the same propensity is transferred for satisfying Kṛṣṇa's senses.

Just like ''gopīs''. The superexcellence of ''gopīs'' is due that they wanted to satisfy Kṛṣṇa. They dressed very nicely because they thought that "Kṛṣṇa become very pleased seeing us nicely dressed." Not that . . . in this material world, a woman or a girl dress very nicely just to attract the opposite sex for his sense gratification. That's all. So everyone, all this description is given there: ''brahma-varcasa-kāma, vīrya-kāma'', then ''vasu-kāma, devīṁ māyāṁ tu śrī-kāmaḥ. Śrī''.

(aside) You can stand near the wall. Others may not . . .

''Śrī'' means beauty. In the Durgā-pūjā, Devī-pūjā, they ask, after offering Mother Durgā all sorts of paraphernalia, then they ''puṣpāñjali'', they pray favor, ''dhanaṁ dehi rūpaṁ dehi balaṁ dehi. Dehi, dehi. Dehi ''means "give me." After ''pūjā'' . . . therefore it is called ''pūjā. Pūjā'', just like in business circle, if you want to take some business from a big merchant, so you satisfy him, flatter him, and sometimes invite him in hotel and give him nice dinner. In this way, after he is satisfied, "Sir, if you kindly give me this contract." (laughter) Or "If you give me this post." The ultimate aim is his post and contract, not to satisfy the person. No. He's spending some money for his own sense gratification. Similarly, all these ''pūjās'', the demigod ''pūjā'', that is for his sense gratification. That's all. Kṛṣṇa therefore condemns this: ''kāmais tais tair hṛta-jñānā yajante anya-devatāḥ'' ([[Vanisource:BG 7.20 (1972)|BG 7.20]]). This very ''kāma''.</p>
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