One should not become father, one should not become mother, if the parents cannot give protection to the children from the danger of birth, death, old age and disease

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"one should not become father, one should not become mother, if the parents cannot give protection to the children from the danger of birth, death, old age and disease"

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Srimad-Bhagavatam Lectures

One should not become father, one should not become mother, if the parents cannot give protection to the children from the danger of birth, death, old age and disease. This is Vedic contraception, that if you are competent to give instruction to your children how to avoid the cycle of birth, death, old age and disease, then you become father. Otherwise don’t become father, don’t become mother.

760513 - Lecture SB 06.01.12 - Honolulu

Brahmacārī is taught from childhood how to keep brahmacārī, brahmacarya. This is the . . . Anyone who is taught from the beginning of life, "No sex life," then at young age he can control. If you still one cannot control, that . . ., this gṛhastha life is a concession for sex life. Actually, sex life is not required for advancement of civilization. That is advancement. Why? That if so long we are attached to sex life, we have to remain within this material world—in any form. There are eight million four hundred . . . Puṁsaḥ striyā mithunī-bhāvam etaṁ (SB 5.5.8). This is . . . Material world means sex desire. So if one wants to become fit candidate for going back home, back to . . .: no more sex life. That is civilization.

So sannyāsa means perfectly no more sex life. Vāna . . .It begins from vānaprastha, retired. It is taught in the brahmacārī. Only in the gṛhastha, restricted sex life; only for begetting nice children. Otherwise, no sex life. Dharma aviruddhaḥ kāmo 'smi (BG 7.11), in the Bhagavad-gita. Dharma aviruddhaḥ means only for getting nice children one should have sex; otherwise no. And in another place it is restricted that one should not become father, one should not become mother, if the parents cannot give protection to the children from the danger of birth, death, old age and disease. This is Vedic contraception, that if you are competent to give instruction to your children how to avoid the cycle of birth, death, old age and disease, then you become father. Otherwise don’t become father, don’t become mother.

So this is the way of civilization, Vedic civilization. It is, nowadays it is very difficult to follow. But it can be followed, provided one is Krsna conscious. Otherwise you cannot follow.